There’s the notorious mid-life crisis, the emerging quarter-life crisis, but the one-fifth-life crisis is a phenomenon still widely under acknowledged.

As a 20-something year old, I know first-hand how ditching the “teen” suffix can really mess with you. You’re past the needing-a-fake-ID stage, but haven’t even THOUGHT about settling down, let alone committing to a single career path.

Here are some totally normal concerns, and why it’s okay to chillax a little, dudes.

What Am I Doing With My Life?

Whoa – going in for the jugular with this super heavy one.

You’re either freshly back from a gap year, wondering whether to launch into study, or completed your first/second year, wondering whether you should have taken a gap year.

Or, you’re working full time, wondering if you should study or travel. This might come as good or bad news, but your average Joe is likely to change careers between 5-7 times in their lifetime. Don’t be afraid of changing your mind, or your plan, or your degree. And don’t rush your choices. Time is your bitch. (If not bitch, then best friend.)

Should I Be Living Out Of Home?

There’s no better way to know yourself than by jumping out of the nest (if you haven’t already been pushed out).

Sure, living at home is comfortable, and moving out is ‘spenno, but you can make it work, even if just for a year. Learn how to cook, do your own laundry, and be home at a reasonable-ish hour in no time!

And, if you’re like a huge chunk of millennials who eventually move back home to save, you’ll appreciate your ‘rents and their Sunday roasts a whole lot more.

Am I Hanging Out With The Right People?

The best piece of friend advice I ever received was “hang out with people who you want to be like.” (Note: this doesn’t necessarily work if your criteria is “rich & famous”.)

For me, it meant finding pals who had found the perfect work/wine balance. Twenty is a critical age of social development. Stick to mates who encourage you, push you towards your goals, and tag you in memes on the reg.

Am I Drinking Too Much?

In short, yes, probably. But you’re in your prime. Just know that five years from now, you won’t be bouncing back from a big night (which by then will mean a max 2 glasses of wine) so easily.

Go out and mingle, make friends. Remember to a) drink heaps of water and b) never EVER drink on an empty stomach. Look, these are probably things you’ll forget as soon as you hit the bar, but hey, mistakes are what your early ‘20s are for, right?

Mina Kitsos is a Sydney-based arts and culture journalist, who enjoys drinking tea and incorporating Kendrick Lamar lyrics into casual conversation.