I have a love-hate relationship with Rory Gilmore.

Obviously, she’s kind, beautiful, and studies hard. Stars Hollow seems to think the sun shines out of her ass — and maybe it does. But I just can’t forget all of the times she was, ahem, kind of shitty.

She’s A Bad Friend

Rory is often far too self-obsessed with her own little world of books and boys to notice when her friends need her. Early on, Lane experiences a lot of embarrassing moments where she needs her best friend for support — like when she awkwardly touches her crush’s hair. But where is Rory? Too busy talking about Dean, Dean, Dean.

And how about in the last season when Paris freaks out over what postgraduate school to attend? Rory is less than enthused, barely making half-assed attempts at consoling her supposed best friend.

The Whole Dean/Jess/Logan Saga

Speaking of Dean, Rory treats him like crap and doesn’t communicate how she’s feeling. Sure, she was 16 years old, but she kept him hanging on while she obviously flirted with Jess. I can’t say I blame Dean for his public dumping of her after everything went down. And as if that wasn’t enough, she later breaks up Dean’s marriage to Lindsey after she sleeps with him. Not cool, Rory!

But clearly her experiences cheating with Dean taught her nothing, because when former boyfriend and almost-fiancé Logan Huntzberger becomes engaged, Rory continues to sleep with him. She even has the gall to complain when Logan’s fiancé moves in with him — meaning they can’t cheat at his London home anymore. I don’t care how much you like Rory, you can’t justify these actions.

She’s Spoiled

It’s ironic that Rory writes a piece mocking the ridiculously rich people of Logan’s world when she herself is also ridiculously privileged. Obviously, Lorelai isn’t rich — she’s a self-made woman — but Rory’s always had a roof over her head, food on the table, and money for as many books, clothes, and coffees as she desires. And if Lorelai can’t provide, then grandparents Richard and Emily do—like when they buy her a CAR, pay for Chilton and Yale, and redecorate the pool house for $40,000 for her to stay in.

If it’s not them, it’s Logan — buying her clothes, paying for fancy apartments and trips around the globe. Rory’s never known what it’s like to struggle. She’s a spoiled princess, and if anything goes wrong, her rich family or boyfriend bail her out. Literally. Remember when she stole a boat?

She Distracts Us From The Real MVP

Rory’s life is filled with success. She works hard — but does she really work hard enough? Rory is dux at high school Chilton, top of her class as Yale, and editor of the Yale Daily News. She gets everything she want, like features writer at college, boys, an excellent internship she doesn’t even have to apply for, and acceptance into Harvard, Yale and Brown.

No one’s saying Rory isn’t smart and hard working. But you know who works far harder? Paris Gellar, who is snubbed from Chilton dux, not accepted into her dream school of Harvard, and booted as editor at the Yale Daily News.

It’s also infuriating when Headmaster Charleston asks Rory and Paris to return to Chilton ten years later, calling them Chilton’s best and brightest. But really, how can you even compare Rory and Paris? Paris has numerous undergraduate and postgraduate degrees in law and medicine, a successful business, a beautiful home, and enough money to casually donate $100 million to the high school. Sure, success is different for everybody, but Rory’s only adult achievement was writing one major article — an article that she expects to sky rocket her career. Insert eye roll here.

She Has A Terrible Attitude

As a result of her princess complex, Rory expects everything.

She expected the New York Times fellowship after graduation, and expected the job offers to come flying in after rejecting her first one (fat chance in this economy). Ten years later, she expects the job at SandeeSays without even bothering to prepare for the interview.

News flash, Rory: jobs aren’t just given to you. Just ask any qualified millennial who still struggles for work. You have to research, prepare and be polite! And yes, you’ll have to do jobs that are “beneath you”, though I’m not sure where you get this superiority complex, considering you’ve never had a stable job.

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